18 Sep 10
September 18, 2004: The day I married up.
Being a naive 23 year old, I had no clue what it really meant to get married. I barely had a grip on dating as my low market value was made evident by the scores I got on hotornot.com. My early 20’s left me with very little to brag about other than the fact I convinced a respectable girl to legally bind herself to me. If you knew me back then, you and I both knew I was getting the best deal of my life.
Fast forward 10 years and here were are now in our early 30’s with a kid who just started kindergarten. Holy… Did we really do this? Did we really just survive a decade together? On paper, I’d say we beat the odds but that’s not to say it’s always been easy. There have been times where I was sure we wouldn’t make it through this in one piece. Times when we didn’t feel like best friends, but more like worst enemies forced to endure one another’s presence. And even though our challenges grew in frequency, scale, and intensity with each year that passed, we’ve overcome them all together, as a team. And that’s what marriage is about right? Not just celebrating when the times are good or easy, but growing stronger in your ability to love one another unconditionally when it’s not easy.
It’s been absolutely amazing getting to spend this much of my life with my best friend at my side. It’s even more amazing that there is a person out there in this world of 7 billion people who truly understands me. I had no idea what it meant to be a good husband/father but I’m so grateful to have found someone patient and loving enough to let me discover that as we go. The thought of spending the next 10 years of our lives together seems so much more exciting now that we’ve built this foundation together. I love you more than ever, Bethany, and I’m so damn happy we get to experience this life together. xoxo.